Self Affirmation or Self Nudging?

Which one is it?

Self nudging– doing a little bit better the next time like changing just one thing e.g., breathing slowly when giving public speeches.

–when people think of self affirmation, they think of someone looking in a mirror and saying I’m awesome, I’m the best, I’ll win. We kinda know though, that when we feel bad about ourselves, saying I’m great doesn’t help because now we just feel like we’re lying to ourselves so we feel bad already, and now I’m a liar. Self affirmation is not that.

Self affirmation is this: according to hundreds of experiments done. This way: They have people list their top 2 or 3 values or qualities that make them who they are. Like if i took away that value or quality away from you, you would say I’m no longer myself. Like taking a piece of me away. They then have them rank them and take the top 1 and write a couple of paragraphs; one paragraph about a time when they expressed it and another maybe about how it felt to express it. That’s the exercise. Then they have then do difficult things like a difficult math test or do a debate competition etc., something completely unrelated.

If i said, i love music; if you took the experience of music away from me, i would not feel like myself and then i did a math test, i would do better on the math test. After doing the self affirmation exercise, i would likely to, on average people, perform better. They even show decreases in epinephrine. So, the idea is anchoring yourself in who you are and what you’re doing is reminding yourself that no matter what happens on that math test, you’re still going to be that person when you walk out: so that math test becomes less important which ironically or paradoxically makes you do better on it.

So spend time kind of journaling; know who you are, what you value but really what those qualities are that make you who you are to you and not to others. Not what removes you but what moves you. _Dr Amy Cuddy

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